Screwed again

So check this out. This is what ALWAYS happens to me. I asked a month ago if Shellie would want to watch the kids because I have something going on this weekend. She said yes, that she would trade me days. Either I didn't tell her which day and she assumed it was Sunday, or I mistakenly told her Sunday and it was saturday-- anyway that's not the point. So last weekend, I got the kids early on Sunday at 7am. She ASKED me if I wanted to get the Saturday night or early Sunday, and so I told her Saturday night. Then my plans changed and I ASKED her if I could get them Sunday morning. She said OK, but it would have to be at 7am. I told her that's ok, because we wanted to go to church anyway.

Now this weekend rolls around and she said "What time do you want me to get the kids sunday morning?" and I asked her then could it be Saturday night. You know, I was thinking I would get at least the amount of flexibility that I give out. No way. She says I have plans Saturday night. She is helping a friend make a video tape for school. So I get a little upset. "I tell her since she can't take the day I need, and it's my regular weekend, don't worry about it." Also I'm thinking I will want to see them Sunday since I will have to be finding a sitter and not get to spend time with them Saturday night. She freaks out and says she has plans now for Sunday night with them. She's calling me, leaving nasty messages on my phone (I don't answer because I'm at work). She sends hateful text messages... She even threatens me. She says "I got some things to think about too, because we've agreed to some things and if you're not going to hold up your end of the bargain, then I don't guess I need to uphold my end of the bargain on a few things." She says it was not a threat, but I know it is. So, like always, I gave in to her. Now she is saying because I made her mad, she will punish me by never changing our schedule again.

The problem is it states clearly in the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines that I HAVE to give her first choice when I'm going to get a sitter. I told her that if she is going to waive that right, then I want it in writing because I am NOT going to break the law. When I get that, at least I can get a sitter without going to her first. She always acts like she's doing the ultimate favor and making the world's greatest sacrifice when she switches or trades with me. I'm sick of it. It's like making a deal with Satan for your soul every time--and she twists the deal around to her favor and takes things by the letter rather than the spirit, and does whatever she can to punish me, make things difficult for me, and hurt me. She doesn't care that it hurts the kids. And if by some chance things don't work out good enough in her favor? Then she's been nailed to a cross and you're the big *ssh*le! You should hear her voice on the message. You can here the tone--it's like a kid throwing a fit to get what they want. I'm going to try and find a way to post it as a wav file... She's been spoiled all her life and gotten everything she wanted from parents, friends, family, and me. She knows nothing else.